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Coping with Failure

1. Expect mistakes and knocks as they’re a normal part of life. The chances are you’re not any worse than other people!

2. Remind yourself that, on the whole, you are good enough. You may not be perfect – but at least you’re trying. It take courage to step out, and to get up when you fall down. Just being willing to do that is a true mark of success.

3. Don’t over-react. It is better to stay calm, to maintain your composure and choose how you’ll respond. A knee jerk reaction often leads to real regret.

4. Try not to think or worry about how others see you. Don’t let other people determine your self-worth.

5. Put a positive slant on a bad experience. What can you learn from this that moves you closer to success? What can you laugh about with friends; what can you see as humorous?

6. Fix your focus on your goals, then look ahead and keep on going. Don’t let a setbacks deflect you from your purpose and your dreams.

Jun 19, 2013304 notes

Jun 19, 20131,235 notes

“I hate being the race card guy, but I’m not scared to be, either. As “New Slaves” makes the rounds, I just want the general population to exhibit the awareness of the song’s objective that comes to me and other blacks so naturally. I know about “broke nigga racism” because I’ve been in the Louis Vuitton store in Monaco where motherfuckers told me not to touch anything if I wasn’t going to buy it. I know that they’re “trying to lock niggas up” because when I got my driver’s license in high school, my mother was just as concerned about my ability to not get my ass beat should I get pulled over by cops as she was about me putting on my seatbelt.” —

On Listening to “New Slaves” with White People | NOISEY

gonna be a hot summer :)

“Let’s be clear: This record is explicitly racial. Also: You can’t fully comprehend its impact unless you’re black. There’s a certain unspoken acknowledgement that comes with being black and listening to “New Slaves” with another black person that speaks to this.”

this is the part white people are gonna get mad about doeeee

(via satanic2chainz)

Jun 19, 2013507 notes

Jun 19, 201327,812 notes

“I know your presidents, and your kings, and your writers, and your heroes, and your supermodels, and your artists, and your food, and your hair, and your issues, and not because I chose it to do so, but because it’s rammed down my throat everyday. I know it so much so, it was and is a conscious struggle to keep my self grounded in my own culture, my own history, my own people.” —

nayyirahwaheed

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thank you, ms. velvetloom.

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Jun 19, 2013316 notes

shutupmerlin:

There is an ad on E4 that advertises a bunch of TV shows, and the clips for The Big Bang Theory as part of that promo show only 2 things:

1. Sheldon saying ‘Well don’t just stand there, get your breasts out’ to Penny.

2. Sheldon addressing a WOC at her job by saying ‘You are black, aren’t you?’ and this woman looking incredibly uncomfortable.

Both with a laughter backing track.

If that doesn’t sum up the entire show and why it sucks, I don’t know what does.

Jun 19, 2013217 notes

wow i either have 0 feelings or all feelings at once

Jun 19, 2013156,232 notes

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Jun 18, 2013

#me

Jun 18, 201337,359 notes

what people think feminism is: who run the world? GIRLS. haha yeah boys can suck my dick, girls are better.
what feminism actually is: who run the world? whoever is most capable of the position, regardless of sex/gender

Jun 18, 2013370 notes

“If we can’t write diversity into sci-fi, then what’s the point? You don’t create new worlds to give them all the same limits of the old ones.” —

— Jane Espenson

I know it isn’t a normal submission but I thought it was a great quote relative to this blog.

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Jun 18, 2013559 notes

onceuponadiscussion:

brella:

tragic backstories explain bad deeds but they do not excuse them

tragic backstories explain bad deeds but they do not excuse them

I don’t know a simpler way to explain this to character apologists in this fandom.

Jun 18, 201326,410 notes

#yes

ethiopienne:

i am regularly baffled by the expectation that women of color, especially black women, owe people explanations for everything. tumblr is an easy microcosm to point to, but it’s pervasive damn near everywhere.

wanna be treated like a human? you better have a nice academic jargon-filled justification for that because last we heard, women of color were just breathing cadavers!

don’t like it when someone calls you the n-word? your discomfort isn’t enough! you better give them a crash course on american racism, history, and language in one easily digestible soundbite!

racism in the media? HAVE YOU SEEN EVERY MOVIE EVER CREATED? IF NOT YOU CAN’T SPEAK! YOU BETTER HAVE RECEIPTS! WHERE ARE YOUR FOOTNOTES? LEMME SEE THE CITATIONS! BUST THEM OUT NOW!

of course this is DOUBLY insulting because the people demanding answers are usually those with disproportionate access to knowledge, education, and other resources that would enable them to easily find the answers to their questions if they would actually look instead of demanding that women of color sweat answers into their palms.

Jun 18, 2013891 notes

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Jun 18, 2013629 notes

#ugh I loved this show #don't judge me

“One way that whites can be accountable is to stop being enablers to white supremacy by supplanting the voice of people of color with their own. We do not need white people speaking for people of color. Such talk is crass paternalism. My words do not need to be placed through a white filter in order for them to be understandable.” —Ewuare X. Osayande (via alostbird)

Jun 18, 20132,073 notes

Jun 18, 2013207,403 notes

thisiswhiteprivilege:

“Your aggression is scaring away people who would want to help you!”

The war against racism will be a hard one, and white allies, real white allies, used to be willing to get attacked by the dogs, beaten up, and even lose their lives for the sake of equality. Now you’re gonna tell me that in 2013 I’m supposed to coddle a white ally who can’t even deal with me expression my disgust for his brothers and sisters do? Fuck outta here. No weak allies. If you can’t handle a couple of sassy black folks on a blog, you’re not equipped with the ovaries of steel required to fight against racism.

-Dion

Jun 18, 20131,014 notes

#white tears

“You want me to be a tragic backdrop so that you can appear to be illuminated, so that people can say ‘Wow, isn’t he so terribly brave to love a girl who is so obviously sad?’ You think I’ll be the dark sky so you can be the star? I’ll swallow you whole.” —Warsan Shire (via durianquotes)

Jun 18, 20133,692 notes