1. Expect mistakes and knocks as they’re a normal part of life. The chances are you’re not any worse than other people!
2. Remind yourself that, on the whole, you are good enough. You may not be perfect – but at least you’re trying. It take courage to step out, and to get up when you fall down. Just being willing to do that is a true mark of success.
3. Don’t over-react. It is better to stay calm, to maintain your composure and choose how you’ll respond. A knee jerk reaction often leads to real regret.
4. Try not to think or worry about how others see you. Don’t let other people determine your self-worth.
5. Put a positive slant on a bad experience. What can you learn from this that moves you closer to success? What can you laugh about with friends; what can you see as humorous?
6. Fix your focus on your goals, then look ahead and keep on going. Don’t let a setbacks deflect you from your purpose and your dreams.
gonna be a hot summer :)
“Let’s be clear: This record is explicitly racial. Also: You can’t fully comprehend its impact unless you’re black. There’s a certain unspoken acknowledgement that comes with being black and listening to “New Slaves” with another black person that speaks to this.”
this is the part white people are gonna get mad about doeeee
thank you, ms. velvetloom.
There is an ad on E4 that advertises a bunch of TV shows, and the clips for The Big Bang Theory as part of that promo show only 2 things:
1. Sheldon saying ‘Well don’t just stand there, get your breasts out’ to Penny.
2. Sheldon addressing a WOC at her job by saying ‘You are black, aren’t you?’ and this woman looking incredibly uncomfortable.
Both with a laughter backing track.
If that doesn’t sum up the entire show and why it sucks, I don’t know what does.
wow i either have 0 feelings or all feelings at once
- what people think feminism is: who run the world? GIRLS. haha yeah boys can suck my dick, girls are better.
- what feminism actually is: who run the world? whoever is most capable of the position, regardless of sex/gender
— Jane Espenson
I know it isn’t a normal submission but I thought it was a great quote relative to this blog.(via whatwhitemaleauthorshavetaughtme)
i am regularly baffled by the expectation that women of color, especially black women, owe people explanations for everything. tumblr is an easy microcosm to point to, but it’s pervasive damn near everywhere.
- wanna be treated like a human? you better have a nice academic jargon-filled justification for that because last we heard, women of color were just breathing cadavers!
- don’t like it when someone calls you the n-word? your discomfort isn’t enough! you better give them a crash course on american racism, history, and language in one easily digestible soundbite!
- racism in the media? HAVE YOU SEEN EVERY MOVIE EVER CREATED? IF NOT YOU CAN’T SPEAK! YOU BETTER HAVE RECEIPTS! WHERE ARE YOUR FOOTNOTES? LEMME SEE THE CITATIONS! BUST THEM OUT NOW!
of course this is DOUBLY insulting because the people demanding answers are usually those with disproportionate access to knowledge, education, and other resources that would enable them to easily find the answers to their questions if they would actually look instead of demanding that women of color sweat answers into their palms.
“Your aggression is scaring away people who would want to help you!”
The war against racism will be a hard one, and white allies, real white allies, used to be willing to get attacked by the dogs, beaten up, and even lose their lives for the sake of equality. Now you’re gonna tell me that in 2013 I’m supposed to coddle a white ally who can’t even deal with me expression my disgust for his brothers and sisters do? Fuck outta here. No weak allies. If you can’t handle a couple of sassy black folks on a blog, you’re not equipped with the ovaries of steel required to fight against racism.